I attended a wonderful seminar about a week ago. Being in an environment surrounded by people who write and feel passionate about their message was invigorating. I also got glimpses of the personalities and hearts of several of the other attendees.
One young couple gave me a lot to think about. They discussed how their words seemed to shape their reality. In the early days of their marriage, even flippant negative comments about each other’s behavior slowly but surely built a barrier between them. And then they got me – pointing out I had said several less than positive things during our short conversation.
Matthew 12:34 reminds me “Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” If that’s the case, my heart could use a little work. If I expect the worst, I shouldn’t be surprised when that’s exactly what I get. But if my words reflect an optimistic future, my mind can’t help but follow. And putting hands and feet to my thoughts will eventually make good things happen.
I’m not suggesting a denial of reality, and I’m a far cry from Hayley Mills’ Pollyanna. But I can take baby steps. Last night after a long day at work, I decided to transplant some flowers in my garden. I had to dig deep in the dirt, and with every movement of the shovel, I felt my weariness. I said out loud, “I’m exhausted”. Hearing my own words, I decided to take a different approach. As I worked the ground, I said “Turn the soil. Dig the hole.” I said this over and over as I cleared a 6 foot row then planted the flowers. Somehow focusing one step at a time on accomplishing the task at hand rather than my physical limitations made it work. It wasn’t easy, but I got the job done.
And then there are the words I speak to my family. My 4-year old was very proud of all the things he did to get himself ready for bed last night. And oh, how he did beam with joy when we praised his efforts. Too many times I find it’s easier to focus on stopping poor behavior rather than encouraging good behavior, especially with my children. That one may take a lot of practice for me to master. But words – my words – have power. I want my heart to overflow with kind and positive thoughts. And I pray that my words will encourage and bless others.
“May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.”